You don’t have to take it!!

I don’t understand why people think that they can do and say anything they want to you and think you are just suppose to accept it.  Like, for the last few years I have really been noticing how, crazy and emotionally selfish people really are. People will do or say something crazy to you and swear, you did something to them. Like what’s up with that.  People will do things to you and will want you to forgive them and move on, but do one tiny thing to them, it’s all over. LOL!!! Sometimes you even have to do anything, it could be in their head.  

 People are crazy! Not only that. But, Society will make you feel like you have to prove yourself at every point in your life.  You don’t have to take it!! People think you are suppose to accept how they treat you and how they feel about you, you don’t!! And, if you allow yourself to be sucked in to the way they view you. You will constantly find yourself unhappy and trying to find someone you probable already knew you were. 

Those kinds of thing will make you second guess yourself and become more insecure if you allow it to.  It’s ok to be yourself, its ok to be different. It’s ok not be someone’s door mat.   You don’t have to be anyone’s cheerleader.  Take time to focus on you, and work on you.  You are becoming a better you! You have to take anyone’s crap. Always remember that! Always remember people come and go, and you are not a rest stop. A place where they use the bathroom and drop their trash. Stand up for yourself and keep it moving! A plane can’t take off if it has too much weight.  

  

Undercover Haters

Life brings a wide variety of people in your life. People that are there to bless you, and be an inspiration, and be an encouragement to you.   You have some people who are there only temporally and, those who are a constant in your life. There are some that are there to teach you many things like a mentor, and some that are there for one purpose. What every the reason or the length of time, and under cover hater can always be lurking in one of those people. Those undercover haters never take off their mask until you make a step forward in the right direction. They are ok until you actually accomplish something. They are ok as long as they feel a step ahead of you and sometimes that doesn’t even matter. Undercover haters are everywhere and can be anyone. One thing I know is that in there heart of hearts they are sooo jealous of you and any thing you do that’s good. They will always feel like they are lacking when you do something good. They can be a millionaire, but let them see you accomplish your goal of buying a lemon (car) that may coast 1,000. They will feel as if they are not doing enough. They can have all they dream in life, but will hate on you for accomplishing your goals.  Undercover haters will pop out at the unexpected times, boiling mad, wanting to cut you up because your succeeding at something. 

You have those undercover hater that are ok as long as you their wing man, but as soon as you gain some independence, here comes that green eyed monster (Jealous). These are those people that sow seeds of doubt in you. These are those that will try to discourage you from doing something that’s working. Sometimes they will try to tell you it’s not working, or tell what needs to change to make you second guess yourself.  Undercover haters are the WORST!! They will build a relationship with you so they can feel as if there is someone beneath them or they will try to control what you do, in fear of you becoming better than them.   If you find yourself in a relationship with an undercover hater, Get away!! They will always be that because there is something in them that needs to be dealt with before they can be genuinely happy for you. They hate you for being you, because they feel like they can’t be who they desire to be. They feel stuck, and you’re moving. They feel unimportant, and they want you to feel that way also. Get away from them, it will benefit you. If you are making moves, you can’t afford to have people in your life that wish chains around your ankles.  Keep doing you, you would not have that undercover hater, if you were not doing something right.  Keep doing you, Boo!