Rejection is Temporary

                     This morning I had a dream that reminded me of all the rejection I've experienced

and sometimes still at times struggle with. It's interesting to have untapped greatness in you, but have to sit and wait because it not your time yet. Having to wait because God still has to work things in and out of you. Having to wait because your still shaky in your walk with him. When this happens it's easy to become frustrating  when hearing, seeing  a glimpse of what God wants to do or has for you to do  , and having to wait for the manifestation of it. We have to be careful not to move out of Gods timing. We forget that every vision , instruction, and  prophecy  is for a set time which may not be in the near future. We also have to be careful not to link up with people who is as equally if not more frustrated than we are. Two people with the same frustration can make one feel right about the wrong things and cause an even bigger problem.  See rejection is disheartening and can cause one to loose momentum , and if repeated, can often  cause one to shut down and not try again. Rejection can cause one to be hesitant to put forth a future effort and hold back when they definitely should speak up.

           Rejection is not always a complete no, sometimes it is not your time. Youre not baked all the way , and you need to stay in the oven a little longer. Your ideas , gifts and talents are great, and are needed in the  world of  today. When we are rejected we have to ask ourselves, although what I bring is good, is it the right moment. Am I giving it to the right place, and am I giving it to the right people? We have to remember everything is not about us and the way we feel. Just as we have felt that hard rejection, we have to be mindful of other people and try not make them feel the way we have felt many times.

            I pray that those of you that struggle with the spirit of rejection, that God would heal you and help you to stay strong when those times arise. Remember that even the prophets were not welcomed in their own countries.  Your time will come. Write the vision. Write down your ideas they may be for a  time that is not here yet. God bless you, remember you are valuble , everyone of Gods jewels is. God Bless you!! 

The Spirit of Control

Listen !!

The Spirit of control is real!! And if some in your life is

operating in that spirit, it is best to get away. It will cause you to be under constant attack and in warfare . You will constantly be arguing or rebuking it . It is a Jezebel spirit!  I am constantly at odds with this spirit and am still in the process of Learning how to overcome it and defeat it. If someone in your life is doing things for you just so that you will do what they want, that is both manipulation and control. Kindly decline their next offer and if they ask why then have a conversation. If these twins Manipulation and control are in your relationships is not a real relationship of any kind, that I'm sure of. Why, because the moment you do not do what the person wants it’s a problem. We have all experienced this spirit, but  I will tell you this, Don’t let anyone control you! God should be the only one in control. Here are a few ways to know….

The following are some signs you are under the unhealthy control of another person:

1. The controlling person you are in close relationship with doesn't allow you to prove your point when in disagreement.

2. The controlling person manipulates you with temper tantrums and threats.

3. The controlling person constantly tries to make victims feel guilty or bad about the way they treat them when the opposite is really true.

4. The controlling person is always expecting more from you and is never satisfied.

5. The controlling person is always questioning your motives.

6. The controlling person is constantly putting you down.

7. The controlling person is used to always having their way.

8. The controlling person walks away from their responsibilities as a way to manipulate others.

9. The controlling person finds ways to impose their will in every situation.

10. The controlling person threatens to end the relationship.

12. The controlling person withholds physical affection.

 I’m going to add one;

13. They get angry and/ or Violent when you don’t do what they want!

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Surround Yourself with Builders

In the times we live in there are so many people who are haters. Haters who try and tear down people for,

what they believe, what they have, who they are, and what they could be. They are the wolves in sheep’s clothing in our lives, they are the courtside watchers waiting for us to fail. When you discover who they are, get and stay away from them. Remember the demolition workers are necessary for the renovation of a house, but be careful who they are. Some only come for the purpose to tear down, and have no intention and don’t know how to build up. There are those who are used to tear down so that something better can be built in us. Because of the potential in that is within. Although hard to find these days, a person who can truly build you up without a destructive motive is a God send. They are gifted people with vision and an ear to hear. Builders help in your development, they repair and instruct, and construct.

Surround yourself with builders. Those who trying their best to be better in every way. Those who have a vision and everyone around them is handling their business. Do not only surround yourself with builders be a builder. Be a blessing, not a burden. Be someone who gives and not always taking. Be that person who encourages, uplifts, pouring into the lives of people. Find builders glean from the wealth of information they “have to offer”. They didn’t get where they are without gaining some wisdom along the way. Surround yourself with builders and learn from them. Yesterday I was sitting in the midst of builders, and it blessed me. Just to sit and listen to the wisdom and experience, helped me in so many ways, and it open up my eyes. They have been a part of my development, I love that

The Making of a Master Piece

Do you every wish you could already be what the Lord desires you to be? Like, skipping the

whole making process, the trials and tribulations. I have.  I sometimes think to myself, “Can I skip forward to the times where I’m in ministry, where I am finish with school, and now running my business. But I’ve learn that I have to go through the making process. The making process the times you are on the potter’s wheel and they are the most important times. God works out of us those things that shouldn’t be, and works in us the tools, the things we need to be equipped with for our journeys with him. It is the times where you are learning to trust him and his plan.  See the problem, many of us want off the wheel too soon. Especially, when we feel the pressure and pain of the kneading, stretching and shaping. It is in the those ruff making moments that we stay in Gods face. We desire to be a finished product without the being made. I’ve learned that at all cost we must go through this process if we are going to be that master piece we desire and he desires us to be. We have to remember, God already see’s the finished work, but we have not made it there yet.    

Jeremiah 18 1-6

1 The word which came to Jeremiah from the Lord, saying,

2 Arise, and go down to the potter's house, and there I will cause thee to hear my words.

3 Then I went down to the potter's house, and, behold, he wrought a work on the wheels.

4 And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.

5 Then the word of the Lord came to me, saying,

6 O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the Lord. Behold, as the clay is in the potter's hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.

   There are those who think, why would God want them? They feel as if they’ve been so horrible that God wouldn’t forgive them. Those that feel they are just unwanted. Those that feel too damaged for restoration,  but I Tell you verse 4 says that the clay was marred  (damaged or rendered less perfect, less attractive, impaired or spoiled),  and it was where?  IN HIS HAND!!! You are not too far in sin where God can reach you.  You are not too damaged for God to take you and make something better, more beautiful.  Just look, he cleansed the leper, He used Rahab, and He forgave Saul and changed him into Paul. God’s is love and love is unlimited. We are not perfect, but being perfected.  You are on the Potter’s wheel being made in to Gods master beautiful master piece.  We are in the hand of the Master Potter, and it’s the best place to be. 

Think Big!!!

I Confess!! I'm Guilty!!!! I Began to think out side the box but my thoughts, goals and vision never

left the room. I had the right ideas in a mini note book, the right ingredients but the wrong measurements.  I'm guilty!  Of letting poverty minded conditioning cover and hide, the acres of possibility. Having acres of opportunity but instead I shrink them down to a small lot size. Why didn't I remember before that although it's my vision my eyes are not Gods eyes.  I was thinking to small. Smaller than the potential in me, smaller than how I was made. I was made to do big things,  intentionally. You see we have great visions, but we allow it to stop there. Never gaining the "Know How," the information we needed to make that vision a reality. Today , I realized that there are so many other things that can come from one idea, one vision, and one business. And that we are so one track minded , we miss opportunities to jump on other tracks in our reach .  We allow low self-esteem to paralyze us, and keep us from making that leap. But Today, I declare that is over. I Declare that every Idea, Dream, Goals, and vision will come to reality. I declare that fear is eliminated and destroyed. I declare that my eyes are open to see and acknowledge every open door, opportunity, and avenue I need to take. In Jesus Name

I encourage you today to expand your way of thinking.  If you own a business think about how you can bring more money to your business . If it's a  physical store think about expanding to an online store, and vice versa. Whatever vision or/and plan you have, take it out the box and don't in sit in the room on a self,  work it until you have reached the top. Gain all the information you need. Many businesses fail in the first two years because lack of management skills and  because the lack the "know how".  Remember Think Big, there is more to you than what you have been putting forth. It is more in you than what you are doing now.  If something doesn't work, go back to the drawing board it is not a failure until you quit. Don't sit on those gifts, ideas, vision, and businesses you have inside of you. Don't let anything or anyone (including yourself)  get in your way. You got this!! You can do this!! You were made for it! Think Big!! The Sky is not the Limit!

Boss Up!!

 There comes a time in your life when you should not be so willing to live and be any kind of way. There comes a time when you desire better, and then you  become willing to pursue and work at it.  As I rose early this morning to get to my 7am class, it dawned up me that I'm not willing to stay in  the comfortable place that I was in for so long. I acknowledge that I have things on the inside that have to come out. I am actively doing my part and waiting on God to do his. I am moving in the right direction, Finally.  

I have found out  that a lot of people are afraid of success, whether they admit it or not. Or whether they know it or not.  Most are scared to see their true potential come to light. Many have great business ideas, but don't know where to start, or how to bring out what they envision on the inside.  Some lack confidence,  their confidence have been destroyed and they don't believe they can do it, or even have what it takes to do it  but the Devil is a lair.   Some lack nourishment, I say nourishment because some come from poverty minded homes. Where mom or dad didn't finish high school, or didn't go to college. Lived off of government assistance their whole life, and never encourage the children to do something with their lives. Never ever  made sure the kids did their homework or what ever they needed to do to succeed in life. Left them to themselves or the streets. They were not given the tools needed to do something better in life. I've been there and I am no longer that young person that allows my past, of what mommy didn't teach me  and daddy wasn't there. To hold me hostage or bound ,keeping me from reaching success. 

I  admit that it is easy to sit and do nothing while life passes you by. Each person has a different level of responsibility and hunger.  Everyone does not  have that go getter mentality. Not everyone has that drive that says , No, you are going to make something of your self, you will have ambitions and goals, and you will accomplish them. 
Now,  if all that describes you, then that is not an  excuse any longer. Get up out of that place of being comfortable with; no drive, no money, self- pity, having excuses, and wanting someone else to do it for you or give you everything. You can do all things, and you can speak it into existence.  Step out on faith that you can do it, you'll never know until you try.  Become that person you desire to be , the only one in your way is you! You can do this!You  can break free too. There is so much in you that can help somebody. You can do what ever you put your mind too.  Rise up do some research, take a class, Get a Job, make a job (Hello!!) and  keep trying to do something to make your life  better then what you were given. Boss up! and watch God work!!

It's Your Life!!

We all have those people in our lives who think, that we should be in a certain place at this time in our lives you telling them you’re not interested.  Constantly having to tell family and friends you took another route in life, made another career choice, or became an entrepreneur. We all have those who think they know what’s best for you, BUT I say “It’s your life,” and you have to live it for you. At the end of the day, those people dishing the suggestions usually will never take suggestions. These people are usually the ones that are not feeling fulfill or satisfied with where they are, at this time in their own lives. So they try to push on you what their desires are. Controlling people try to control other because they feel like they don’t have control over their own situation, so they try to find anything and anyone gullible, immature, or with a lack confidence they can easily maneuver. Please, Get away from those or put them in their place. You are a confident individual and not a carbon copy of someone else. You are an original honey and act like it. Those individuals who think we should follow the life schedule they made for us in their heads, and somehow their schedule is supposed to top the one we made for ourselves. If not, those parents who are continually hounding you to get married and have some grandchildren for them.  People who are always telling you what you should do, in spite of

It’s your life and it is up to you and God to make the decisions.  You have to make the choices in your life, because at the end of the day, you will be stuck with whatever the result are.  Don’t let anyone decide your life for you, because if it’s a bad choice, you will have to live with whatever comes next. It’s your life, make the best of it.  Be free and be yourself. Find what makes you happy and fulfilled. Let people go down whatever road they are trying to send you. Don’t care what others have to say about it either.    Please remember no matter what you people will always have something to say about it, SO WHAT!! Let people talk, as long as they don’t put their hands on you or yours, let them say what they want.  While their miserable and you have joy!!! Let them talk while you laugh all the way to the bank. Let them talk while you’re getting degrees or starting your business. Let them talk because that’s all they have. You only get one life and it disappears just as fast as vapor. Make the best of it, and make sure it’s the one you chose or God chose for you. A life without regrets, and wishing you had done something. Make the best of it and always remember, live it to its fullest. It’s Your Life!!!

                                                                                           -AB  

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

There are many of us trying to accomplish our dreams and goals. We are trying hard to make them a reality, and anyone who is really putting forth that effort knows it can and will be challenging and discouraging at times. There are times when you accomplish pieces of your goals and/or dream and then it seems like someone turns up the lever too hard. The closer you get the harder it becomes, but we have to keep pushing, reminding ourselves every day that we can do it. I say reminding ourselves because we will not always have the support we need. I have been in school for a while, and I’ve been trying to start a business.  At times, it can be discouraging sometimes it feeling like accomplishing success is miles away.  There are times where I have to get by myself and get down to business. It’s funny because when you really buckle down and handle your stuff, you will lose people. People will think your acting funny, or snobby.  However, as time goes you will see who is really for you, who’s toxic to your dreams and success. There are people that act like there for you, but as soon as you accomplish something the monster they are will really come out. 

Protect your vision, dreams and goals. Learn when to share and who to share with because there are undercover haters that will try to throw acid and smile in your face.  We will not always have someone wishing us the best, sitting in our corner encouraging us to keep going. Most of the time it is lonely and you have to encourage and motivate yourself.   I want to say to all those who is fighting to make something of yourself, trying to start a business, and finish school, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  Keep trying , keep researching, keep finding different avenues and ideas. Don’t anyone tell you what you can’t do! Believe in yourself!! Trust the process!!  Trust God!! You Got this!! Keep going!!  YOU CAN DO THIS!!

Know Your Worth!

Knowing your worth is one of the most important revelations in life. However, we live in a society where this is not instilled in us. It is very important to understand and have confidence in knowing we have worth. We must be able stand our ground and not waver when we our worth and integrity is challenged. Not just in intimate relationships, but work, business, and friendships. Knowing our worth determines so many thing such as, what you are willing to accept and put up with from others, and what you can and are willing to bring to the table. Also it is how you present yourself or what you are bringing to that table. There are many things that can hinder you from knowing your worth here are a few. 1.  Low Self Esteem, is the number one reason individuals don’t know and understand their worth. If you have low self-esteem you are walking that line of not believing your worth anything. 2. Staying in any relationship where people constantly tare, and put you down. 3. Staying in relationships where you are constantly being lied to, cheated on, manipulated or abused. If business, lack of promotion (if it’s definitely room to grow and you are doing an amazing job) or someone tries to insultingly negotiate your services or products like they aren’t worth anything. 4. Allowing family and/or friends to talk and treat you any way they please, and allowing them to continue humiliating, and degrading you. 5. When you allow people too constantly to put you, your character, and ideas down, it shows the lack of understanding of your worth.

        When someone knows their worth, they are not willing to accept any treatment. They have confidence and need no validation from others! When someone knows their worth they have integrity and carry themselves in a certain manner. You can’t just bring B.S and think they are going to just accept it. They will not let someone continue to step on them or cut them down. They know what they can bring to the table and will not be manipulated or talked out of what they know is theirs. When someone knows their, they will fall back and stop people in their tracks, when they are not being treated according how they know or believe they should. They carry themselves respectfully, and have no problem giving respect.  Knowing your worth is very important indeed. I am in that lesion right now, and I am learning to fall back and not just accept everything. It can be a long process, learning your worth. However, it one of the best lesson that you will carry throughout life. It is a lesson that everyone needs to learn.  The truth is if you don’t know it, you will never live up to your true potential, and you never get all that life has for you.  Thank you for reading!