In Times of Change!

Hello, Beautiful people!! I hope everyone is doing well.

These last couple of weeks have been Jam packed, and  so many things have transpired.

I never use to think that one could mature so quickly. Until it happen to me. These last couple of months has been an interesting time for me. It has been fill with so much revelation, healing , and character building. I have been plucked and pulled and redirected in the spirit so many times, in this time.  It has not all felt good. There are times when I've been rebuked by God, and times when I've  had to rebuke me. In this season I've had to step back from things, and people. No shade, no ill will, but it was just my instruction for this semester of  growth. See  Growth is uncomfortable ,  It requires you to  first  be  planted. When you've  been planted  you're in the dirt and you are alone and  not seen  , you are being watered and fed sunlight while germination begins . Which means you have to guard what you are allowing your spirit to be fed. See in times of growth your  spirit has to be nurtured. Spend more time with the Lord and in his word.  It may feel like this time last forever but before you know it, you will crack the shell and began to push through,  pass the level you are on, and pushing is hard . After you push past the dirt (that level) you began to sprout into a whole new level.  A new level of ; anointing, power, understanding, ministry, and relationship with God.

I encourage all  of you  Gods seeds (his children) in this time of change. It may be a difficult time for you , and you may not understand everything that God  is taking you through but continue to push through. There is Purpose for each trial, lost person, everynight you cried, Everytime you wanted to give. There is PURPOSE. Trust his process!!  You know he didn’t bring you this far to let you die! You are becoming better. You are becoming that tree planted by the water , you will bring forth fruit in your season, and you will not be moved. You are his Seed, he planted you. HE shines on you because he is the Sun(Son), He waters you because he is the living water.  Be encouraged, Be encouraged!  Keep Going and Keep Growing.  God bless you 

The Spirit of Control

Listen !!

The Spirit of control is real!! And if some in your life is

operating in that spirit, it is best to get away. It will cause you to be under constant attack and in warfare . You will constantly be arguing or rebuking it . It is a Jezebel spirit!  I am constantly at odds with this spirit and am still in the process of Learning how to overcome it and defeat it. If someone in your life is doing things for you just so that you will do what they want, that is both manipulation and control. Kindly decline their next offer and if they ask why then have a conversation. If these twins Manipulation and control are in your relationships is not a real relationship of any kind, that I'm sure of. Why, because the moment you do not do what the person wants it’s a problem. We have all experienced this spirit, but  I will tell you this, Don’t let anyone control you! God should be the only one in control. Here are a few ways to know….

The following are some signs you are under the unhealthy control of another person:

1. The controlling person you are in close relationship with doesn't allow you to prove your point when in disagreement.

2. The controlling person manipulates you with temper tantrums and threats.

3. The controlling person constantly tries to make victims feel guilty or bad about the way they treat them when the opposite is really true.

4. The controlling person is always expecting more from you and is never satisfied.

5. The controlling person is always questioning your motives.

6. The controlling person is constantly putting you down.

7. The controlling person is used to always having their way.

8. The controlling person walks away from their responsibilities as a way to manipulate others.

9. The controlling person finds ways to impose their will in every situation.

10. The controlling person threatens to end the relationship.

12. The controlling person withholds physical affection.

 I’m going to add one;

13. They get angry and/ or Violent when you don’t do what they want!

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"12 Signs Someone Is Manipulating and Controlling You." Charisma News. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Aug. 2016. <http://www.charismanews.com/opinion/the-pulse/56927-12-signs-someone-is-manipulating-and-controlling-you>.

Fasting is a Must!!

Fasting!

Hello Awesome People!!

I must share this lesson I received yesterday. I and 2 others were talking with my pastor yesterday, and he began to share some things with us. One thing that he said that stood out to me,  he was talking about  when Moses was standing before the burning bush.  Moses was told :

“put off thy shoes from off thy feet, for the place whereon thou standest is holy ground.”

My pastor said that his shoes represented the flesh, and the flesh was between him and the glory. It dawned on me , That this is the very reason  it is so important for us to fast. Because when we fast it is moving our flesh out of the way. Our flesh is in the way of us and God's glory.  We can’t get as close to Gods glory as we desire until we remove flesh out of the equation. Please do not misunderstand me , I know we can't actually take off our flesh nor can we get away from the daily encounters in our lives. However, When we fast we are dethroning our flesh (Taking the shoes from off our feet) .  Allowing us to draw closer to God, allowing us to stand on holy ground because where the presence of the Lord is raining it, becomes holy ground.  The full scripture says

And he said, Draw not nigh hither put off thy shoes from off thy feet, for the place whereon thou standest is holy ground.” EXODUS 3:5

And he said, Draw not nigh hither,( Don’t come any closer) (But ) put off thy shoes from off thy feet, (Why)  for the place whereon thou standest is holy ground.” ( and flesh is not welcome in his presence)EXODUS 3:5

The bible says that " That no flesh should glory in his presence."1 Corinthians 1:29) The flesh seeks its own glory and pleasing its self rather than God!Flesh represents  Sin, Disobedience, and unbelief  etc. It is not welcomed in the presence of God.   If we desire to get closer to God there will be times when we have to sacrifice some things to get closer to him.  We have to push ourselves too fast more and  dethrone this flesh, taking off the shoes on our feet so that we may stand on holy ground in the presence of GOD. Thank you!!

The Change-Up

Lately, my desires for certain things have made somewhat of a shift. My views and the ways I understand and perceive things have changed.  The way I operate is different now,and It's been a long time coming. In the past,  I have allowed my love for people around me to influence and pollute  me to a point where I was spiritually sick. I have lost great people, or they do not see me the same because of the poison I allowed in. I'm not blaming anyone but myself. However, I do encourage to be careful of the influences you allow around you.  Through all that I have been through, I'm still here, doing better than I ever thought I would even make it many to do. It took me letting some go, it took me to keep trying a million times. It took me to push past pain and illness, it took me to fight.  I had to change my thinking. My mind needed to be renewed. I had to change my atmosphere and many more things. I say,  If you are ever going to win in life there will be some things you have  to change also. Remember,  Change doesn’t always have to be bad , change can be good and sometimes just necessary.

           There comes a time in your life where every excuse and every hinderane that comes from inside of you , you have to over come.  Times that in spite of being tired, wanting to give up there is a push that you need to tap in to. See, we want change, but there is a lot of hard work that comes along  with change. Why? Because Change is an action word! And faith without works is dead.  Things not working , change up. Keep running in to the same wall, same people, and same problems its time to change your approach. Time to let some people go, its time to change the information you have, find some new information. Nothing happens by just sitting around waiting for change. Yes, We wait on God, But we wait while working. I am learning this and learning how to put action to my desires. I kicked out my excuses although they are valid, they do not help.  I encourage you to have a change up in your thoughts and actions to a direction of better, in a direction of greater. Let the Lord lead you and I’m sure you’ll reach your purpose. 

                                                                  Thank you for reading

The Desires of your Heart!!

This morning as I sat quietly, I realized that the Lord had answered yet again another prayer and desire of

mine.  I have always prayed for my father’s family. Growing up I wasn’t close with them. Not because it  wasn’t possible, but because everyone who had the power to make that happen, didn’t make an effort. I’m not salty or anything but it became a desire of mine to meet them. I had siblings, aunts, uncles, and a great grandmother that I never met. It made me wonder about the other side of me. I wanted to meet them . I ask the Lord to let me see my great gran before she passed away. I went to thanksgiving 2014 and met her and a few months later she passed away. Although that is sad he didn’t let her die before I met her. That thanksgiving I met 2 of my aunts and cousins and I was so grateful. I helped me to understand a part of me. Today, I am here with my oldest brother and it was a prayer of mine to meet all of my siblings that makes 7 out of 9. He is answering my prayers, he’s  a prayer answering GOD.

I told you all that to say God knows your heart desires, and he hears every prayer request you’ve made. Trust him to take care of it. If he doesn’t, it does not mean he can’t, it means, he’s protecting you, or he has something better.  Focus on being obedient to him and he will take care of your desires, dreams, and prayer request.  Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart Psalm 37:4. It doesn’t matter how long it may take, or how long you’ve been waiting. It doesn’t matter how he does it as long as he does it. Don’t be like Sarah,  get tired of waiting and trying to rush the process  then end up with an Ishmael, waiting on your Issac. Keep trusting, keep holding on, and keep waiting. I am a witness that he is a prayer answering God. God Bless, you be encouraged. 

The Making of a Master Piece

Do you every wish you could already be what the Lord desires you to be? Like, skipping the

whole making process, the trials and tribulations. I have.  I sometimes think to myself, “Can I skip forward to the times where I’m in ministry, where I am finish with school, and now running my business. But I’ve learn that I have to go through the making process. The making process the times you are on the potter’s wheel and they are the most important times. God works out of us those things that shouldn’t be, and works in us the tools, the things we need to be equipped with for our journeys with him. It is the times where you are learning to trust him and his plan.  See the problem, many of us want off the wheel too soon. Especially, when we feel the pressure and pain of the kneading, stretching and shaping. It is in the those ruff making moments that we stay in Gods face. We desire to be a finished product without the being made. I’ve learned that at all cost we must go through this process if we are going to be that master piece we desire and he desires us to be. We have to remember, God already see’s the finished work, but we have not made it there yet.    

Jeremiah 18 1-6

1 The word which came to Jeremiah from the Lord, saying,

2 Arise, and go down to the potter's house, and there I will cause thee to hear my words.

3 Then I went down to the potter's house, and, behold, he wrought a work on the wheels.

4 And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.

5 Then the word of the Lord came to me, saying,

6 O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the Lord. Behold, as the clay is in the potter's hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.

   There are those who think, why would God want them? They feel as if they’ve been so horrible that God wouldn’t forgive them. Those that feel they are just unwanted. Those that feel too damaged for restoration,  but I Tell you verse 4 says that the clay was marred  (damaged or rendered less perfect, less attractive, impaired or spoiled),  and it was where?  IN HIS HAND!!! You are not too far in sin where God can reach you.  You are not too damaged for God to take you and make something better, more beautiful.  Just look, he cleansed the leper, He used Rahab, and He forgave Saul and changed him into Paul. God’s is love and love is unlimited. We are not perfect, but being perfected.  You are on the Potter’s wheel being made in to Gods master beautiful master piece.  We are in the hand of the Master Potter, and it’s the best place to be. 

Think Big!!!

I Confess!! I'm Guilty!!!! I Began to think out side the box but my thoughts, goals and vision never

left the room. I had the right ideas in a mini note book, the right ingredients but the wrong measurements.  I'm guilty!  Of letting poverty minded conditioning cover and hide, the acres of possibility. Having acres of opportunity but instead I shrink them down to a small lot size. Why didn't I remember before that although it's my vision my eyes are not Gods eyes.  I was thinking to small. Smaller than the potential in me, smaller than how I was made. I was made to do big things,  intentionally. You see we have great visions, but we allow it to stop there. Never gaining the "Know How," the information we needed to make that vision a reality. Today , I realized that there are so many other things that can come from one idea, one vision, and one business. And that we are so one track minded , we miss opportunities to jump on other tracks in our reach .  We allow low self-esteem to paralyze us, and keep us from making that leap. But Today, I declare that is over. I Declare that every Idea, Dream, Goals, and vision will come to reality. I declare that fear is eliminated and destroyed. I declare that my eyes are open to see and acknowledge every open door, opportunity, and avenue I need to take. In Jesus Name

I encourage you today to expand your way of thinking.  If you own a business think about how you can bring more money to your business . If it's a  physical store think about expanding to an online store, and vice versa. Whatever vision or/and plan you have, take it out the box and don't in sit in the room on a self,  work it until you have reached the top. Gain all the information you need. Many businesses fail in the first two years because lack of management skills and  because the lack the "know how".  Remember Think Big, there is more to you than what you have been putting forth. It is more in you than what you are doing now.  If something doesn't work, go back to the drawing board it is not a failure until you quit. Don't sit on those gifts, ideas, vision, and businesses you have inside of you. Don't let anything or anyone (including yourself)  get in your way. You got this!! You can do this!! You were made for it! Think Big!! The Sky is not the Limit!

Right Place Right Time!!

We have always heard the older generation say 
"They were in the wrong place, at the wrong

time," when  tragedy strikes. And it seems that it is happening a lot more frequent these days.  However, there  is a such thing as being in the Right Place at the Right time. I experienced it this morning. 
I hope this blesses you!

       I am a college student and I am also an entrepreneur . When you are an entrepreneur it cost a lot of your own  money and time. It takes a lot of resources and things you probably don't have.  It is up to you are the sole owner to provide these things. 70% small businesses fail in the  first 10 years of business, most in the very beginning stages.  One of the most important things when starting a business is the "Know How," and  that information can be money for a new business owner. Now back to college , I have taken a business class and because I was sick a lot and my blood pressure was out of control, I had to drop that class. I had to drop that class, so I am taking it again now. It is the 4th day of class and the information that I have receive has change my life today!! I had been struggling and my teacher just gave me the solution. was a month in to the other class and the information I got was standard and it wasn't even close to what I receive today. Had I remain healthy and  in the other class, I wouldn't be here getting what I truly need.

         See we don't understand when things happen to us or why we haven't been able to propel in the time we think we should. But,  if you actively trust and wait on  him, he will put you in the place you should be, to hear what you need to hear, at the time you need you should be, so that you can walk in to your  destiny. Sometimes we think God has forgotten about the dreams we are desperately trying to accomplish, so we sometimes loose faith. BUT!!!!!!  Wait upon the Lord, all things are working for your good. I tell you he will put you in the right place at the right time!!  Mind is Blown this morning!! Don't give up on God ! Trust the process!! Trust his time!! It's not to late!   

                                                                   Have a Great Day!!
                                                                               -AB

What's Your Anthem!!!

Have you ever had a song that is  apart of your routine in the morning that just gets you hype and motivated. The one everyone tired of hearing you play, and when it comes on every one looks at you. LOL!  Do you have something that you quote everyday or declarations you make?  These are the things that help make life just a tiny bit easier to get things done that you may not really want to do.   Its your anthem . An anthem is

 1. A rousing or uplifting song identified with a particular group, body, or cause.

 2:  A song or hymn of praise or gladness

 What is your Anthem? Something that encourages you. Something that gives you that extra boost! Something that you declare, something sing or speak. I  encourage you to find you anthem or make one.  In the times you feel low , play your song, say you declaration or scripture. I pray that it uplifts you! I am going to leave you with my anthem song and I pray it blesses you!! Have a great rest of the day!! 

Break the chains of your Past

In our lives, we experience things that try to hold on to us our whole life’s journey. Things

that hurt us , abuse, rape, abandonment, and Loss/ failure. The enemy will try to make us think that’s who we are. He will try to make us think that we are  our past and that we will never escape those things that hold or held us bound, But I'm am here to say that the devil is a liar. Those things we ever experienced  were made for us to overcome and help someone else through those situations. If you are holding on to past experiences, I encourage you to deal with it and let it go. There are great things to come for you and bigger battles for you to fight. All things work together for the good , I am a true witness of this, and this season of my life I am seeing Gods' hand and understanding why things have seem delayed, but there has been a purpose revealed around every corner this season,  and there are better things coming your way. Remember we are free by the power and the blood of Jesus  your past is gone and that day can never come back .  You are victorious and you made it through. I declare you are free in Jesus. Claim your freedom

Dear Lord,

I ask you to open up my eyes and understanding help me to see that your hand was in for my good. Today I declare I am free from those things that hold me back from being all that I was made to be. I declare that satan cannot control mymind make me revisting those past hurts brecause I am healed and free. Lord, I ask that you bless this day and have your way with it. I thank you for your blood that covers me, and I look forward to everything you have for me. Thank you for being a keeper, and thank you for being awesome to me.

                                                                       In Jesus Name. Amen 

Even when it Hurts

There are times in our lives when we have to keep going no matter the obstacle we face. There are times when we have to continue to love those who have wronged us because it is the right things to do. Not saying that we have to continue to accept their treatment to us , but rather still love them afar and forgive them. There are times when our bodies get weak and our minds get weary, however, we don’t have the liberty and option to  take a break. There are times when we already feel like we are bending over backward, breaking our backs and the world is still asking for more.  When these times arise we have to continue pressing on even when it hurts, even when we feeling we might fail or fall. When it's painful to our bodies, and when it's painful to our hearts , we have to continue on because if we don’t who will?  I know it may seem as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and everyone is counting on you. But God must trust you enough  to get things done and trust you to do it to the best of your ability, that’s why he gives you a heavier load.

There  will be times when we feel like we have no more to give, and feel like we want to be left alone. We will be hurt, misused and taken advantage of. However,  we have to keep going , keep giving what has been placed inside of us. Do what we are equipped to do , it is a part of our making. It is who we are made to be. We can't deprive the world of the gifts we have to offer. It is said  a man's gifts will make room for him but it never has never said how much room it would be. It doesn’t say what the conditions will be when that room is made available.  I encourage you that whatever is hurting you  that you keep pressing  past the pain , it is only one pit stop to your destination. Keep working on your dreams and goals, keep working in the ministry God assigned for you to do. It will all make sense one day.  One day it will be all worth it.   You are victorious, even when it hurts!! God Bless!

                                                                                      -AB

Hated For his Name Sake!!

We love Christ, and we try our best to live a life worthy of him.  We live in times when wee Christians are being persecuted and killed.  For a while being thrown in jail or murder for our faith only happen in the middle east, but now it is here  in America.  We thought we were safe, and we thought we had religious freedom but that time is gone. It is interesting that we live in a nation that says in God we trust,"but I ask, which god? I have never seen it specified the god they were actually talking about. We live in a country where every  religion is accepted except Christianity. Our very faith is being protested and fought against. We are killed, we are shunned, we are hated, but it comes as no surprise.God warned us of this, in the  bible when it says that Christians we would be hated by all nations for Jesus’ name sake, "Jesus says, “And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake,” the rest of that verse says, “but he that endured to the end shall be saved.” Matthew 10: 22   .

 I know sometimes it feels like we may not make it until he returns, but we can endure until the end. If  it were not possible, he wouldn't have said it. I  know that we  say for Christ I live and for Christ I die, but what  happens when you experience that hate that Jesus talked about.  What happens if you get beat or thrown in jail for the love of Christ? What if? I ask because it is happening now. The Devil and his minions have succeeded in birthing a nation of idol worship. Everything that has been set up to promoted and represent Christ have been torn down, and the statues and temples of Satan have been proudly built.  We live in times we the truth has become a lie, and good is seen as evil and evil is said to be good. We truly live in the end times, and it will get no easier for us who trust in Christ.

        I admonish you to hold on and be  encouraged. Even when we are under attack we still have to show the love of our savior. Even though the world is raging against us, we have to show the world that Christ loves them too and is always ready to receive them into his arms. He warned to remain humble and loving. “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore, wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” Matthew 10:16  We will be persecuted , some beaten and hurt for the love of our savior, but remember just as much as the world hates us God loves us more. Keep pressing toward the mark. Remain under his ark of safety. For the time is almost here that we will be in the place he has prepared for us.  Be blessed, be encouraged, and remember he loves us. 

Things Grow in our Valleys

Everyone is always looking for the mountain top experience or being on the mountain top in their lives. We believe that being on the mountain top is highest and happiest place you can be, and that may be true but it only lasts for a moment. Soon after being on the mountain top you began your descent into the valley. A valley is a low place, and no one wants to be in a valley place. The reason is we always associate the valley with things such as depression, loss, and other bad things that happen to us. Many believe that the valley is designed for the test and trials and that it is the dry places in our lives. However, I am here to tell you that the valley is a setup blessing that we perceive to be horrible. Most will get into the valley of life and shut down and get depressed. The valley is the place you should sow because there can be an abundance in the valley. Things can grow. When looking at a valley, valleys are mostly grassy places, and there are trees, you need 10-15 inches a year in the rain for grass to grow, and you need 15- 20 inches of rain for trees to grow. On top of that, most rivers and streams of water flow down into the valley.   Water, grass, and trees bring food and life to other things in the valleys. Which tells me that valleys are indeed not places of dryness but a place of growth.  It is our perception of it that makes us weep in our valley time, and that make us hope for another mountain peak, where hardly anything grows. Our valleys are meant for things to grow and bring life to things in our lives.

The valley is a place of good ground. Remember even though you are in the valley and may weep, it is a time of growth and restoration. It is a place of life and not death. It is a place of rest before the climb back up the mountain.  When we feel low, and in despair it is our pain that pushes our seeds in to the soil, and it is our tears that is the rain that water our seeds.  When we began to cry the rain starts, think about it watering our gifts, the ministry that we have been called to do, our businesses, and the seeds we have sown.  Get ready for things to grow because the lord is working on the fields of our souls.  We have to keep pushing through the valley. We have to remember to keep moving.  For our time in the valley lasts only for a moment. Then we are on our way climbing back up the mountain.  Be encouraged and always remember that those seed you planted with your pain, and the tears you use to water them, will continue to grow.  Everything in our life has purpose, but how we perceive things, can be a blessing or a curse. We can miss out on great opportunities of sowing because the way see and interpret our valleys. Let us change our perception of our life valleys. Use them as opportunities to plant and water and remember ,  Valleys are a blessing!! Be encourage, and stay strong. 

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

There are many of us trying to accomplish our dreams and goals. We are trying hard to make them a reality, and anyone who is really putting forth that effort knows it can and will be challenging and discouraging at times. There are times when you accomplish pieces of your goals and/or dream and then it seems like someone turns up the lever too hard. The closer you get the harder it becomes, but we have to keep pushing, reminding ourselves every day that we can do it. I say reminding ourselves because we will not always have the support we need. I have been in school for a while, and I’ve been trying to start a business.  At times, it can be discouraging sometimes it feeling like accomplishing success is miles away.  There are times where I have to get by myself and get down to business. It’s funny because when you really buckle down and handle your stuff, you will lose people. People will think your acting funny, or snobby.  However, as time goes you will see who is really for you, who’s toxic to your dreams and success. There are people that act like there for you, but as soon as you accomplish something the monster they are will really come out. 

Protect your vision, dreams and goals. Learn when to share and who to share with because there are undercover haters that will try to throw acid and smile in your face.  We will not always have someone wishing us the best, sitting in our corner encouraging us to keep going. Most of the time it is lonely and you have to encourage and motivate yourself.   I want to say to all those who is fighting to make something of yourself, trying to start a business, and finish school, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  Keep trying , keep researching, keep finding different avenues and ideas. Don’t anyone tell you what you can’t do! Believe in yourself!! Trust the process!!  Trust God!! You Got this!! Keep going!!  YOU CAN DO THIS!!

The close of a Chapter!

We go through so many seasons in our lives, every one bringing its own share of ups and downs.  Its own set of surprises and challenges.  Seasons that bring both loss and gain. However, a season is only a part of something bigger. A Chapter!  Let me explain, when reading a book you will find that years, months, and days can go by for any character. The character can experience many changes, and will often mature as the time goes. Seasons can go by and you can still be in the same chapter. A chapter is not limited to certain amount of time or issues, and no matter what you go through in a previous chapter of your life, every chapter differs from another. It’s really up to the author to determine when the chapter is over. Chapters end and begin with a shift! For example, When Jesus was on the cross and he said “It is Finished,” it closed the chapter of being under the dispensation of the law. It also opened up a new chapter (dispensation) called grace! 

 I am approaching the end of a chapter in my life and it is bringing so many mixed feelings. I am happy and feel like crying at the same time. It’s amazing when you spend a chunk of your life in a certain place and when the end of it comes, you reflect and appreciate how far you’ve come. Especially when you didn’t think you would make it in the first place. This chapter in my life has truly shown me what it means to be strong and grateful, and blessed. It has shown me the essence of growth. It has not been an inch of easy, but I survived and endured every stumbling block placed in front of me to trip and fail. I’ve grown, matured, and am ready to move on to the next chapter in my life.  It’s interesting because it is at the end of the chapter when the story gets the juiciest. It leaves you with anticipation and desire to keep reading.  In life it is just the same, it leaves you excited and/or anxious for what’s next. I encourage you to appreciate the seasons and events that makes up your chapter, and when the chapter is over move on with grace and purpose.  Your story has already been written, but as it unfolds to you, live it to its fullest.   

                                                                         -AB

Know Your Worth!

Knowing your worth is one of the most important revelations in life. However, we live in a society where this is not instilled in us. It is very important to understand and have confidence in knowing we have worth. We must be able stand our ground and not waver when we our worth and integrity is challenged. Not just in intimate relationships, but work, business, and friendships. Knowing our worth determines so many thing such as, what you are willing to accept and put up with from others, and what you can and are willing to bring to the table. Also it is how you present yourself or what you are bringing to that table. There are many things that can hinder you from knowing your worth here are a few. 1.  Low Self Esteem, is the number one reason individuals don’t know and understand their worth. If you have low self-esteem you are walking that line of not believing your worth anything. 2. Staying in any relationship where people constantly tare, and put you down. 3. Staying in relationships where you are constantly being lied to, cheated on, manipulated or abused. If business, lack of promotion (if it’s definitely room to grow and you are doing an amazing job) or someone tries to insultingly negotiate your services or products like they aren’t worth anything. 4. Allowing family and/or friends to talk and treat you any way they please, and allowing them to continue humiliating, and degrading you. 5. When you allow people too constantly to put you, your character, and ideas down, it shows the lack of understanding of your worth.

        When someone knows their worth, they are not willing to accept any treatment. They have confidence and need no validation from others! When someone knows their worth they have integrity and carry themselves in a certain manner. You can’t just bring B.S and think they are going to just accept it. They will not let someone continue to step on them or cut them down. They know what they can bring to the table and will not be manipulated or talked out of what they know is theirs. When someone knows their, they will fall back and stop people in their tracks, when they are not being treated according how they know or believe they should. They carry themselves respectfully, and have no problem giving respect.  Knowing your worth is very important indeed. I am in that lesion right now, and I am learning to fall back and not just accept everything. It can be a long process, learning your worth. However, it one of the best lesson that you will carry throughout life. It is a lesson that everyone needs to learn.  The truth is if you don’t know it, you will never live up to your true potential, and you never get all that life has for you.  Thank you for reading!    

Life is but a Vapor

I often worry about the time we have left on this earth. In the times we live in today, it seems as if time has sped up.   It looks as if the end of the world is tomorrow, and today is almost over.  I wonder if I will ever accomplish my dreams and goals. Will I ever see marriage and have children; I wonder how much time my family members has left. It plagues my mind often. Although I am making progress toward the things I hope for, I still ask myself will I finish.  I am learning to appreciate each day, and to make the best of it. I am learning to choose wisely who and what I allow to take up the time I have. We can’t get time back so we have to make sure it’s taken up with the things that make us happy or the things we actually want to do. Why?  Because life will pass us by and we’ll look up and time will run out.  I know we as human beings think we have all the time we need, but the truth is tomorrow is not promised. 

Life is but a vapor, and vapor disappears in seconds. I encourage you to make the best of your day. Don’t dwell on petty mishaps. Don’t dwell on things you can do nothing about. Seize the day and take control of your happiness. Don’t spend time being a people pleaser or a yes man. Don’t spend your time doubting yourself or God.  I am learning to be unapologetically me, and I think everyone should.  Be the best you, you can be! Follow your dreams and purpose. The truth is we don’t know when it’s all over so you should live everyday as your last. I am fighting to get to this place, living like every day is my last. I am making the adjustments I need, so that I don’t waste time that I can’t get back. Finding the things I that love and doing that. Find what fulfills you. Get excited about life, command happiness, and protect your joy! Thank you for reading!! Bless you all love bugs!! 

What would you tell your younger self?

This morning as I was watching a clip of the real, and they did a segment asking what you would tell your younger self. They presented pictures of themselves now with their younger self. As I watched it I began to cry because there is so much I would tell her. First, I would hug her and love on her because she really needed it.  I would tell her that everything will be ok and she will be ok. As a child, I endured a lot, a lot of loneliness and low self-esteem because esteem wasn’t being built up.  There was nothing preparing me for the future. My mother and father were consumed in themselves because what life dealt them. Which left me and my brothers to fin for ourselves emotionally, partially physically.

She needed someone to pour into her and nurture her. She needed someone to guide her and correct her. She needed someone to invest in her, most of all someone say, I Love you. I would love to tell myself at a younger age it’s not their fault (my parents). They are hurting and they love you no matter what. I would tell her that she is bright and smart. She can do anything. 

I would let her know how gifted and creative she is, and how God has a plan for her. I would tell her don’t hold grudges toward the people that have hurt her and pray for them. I would say don’t let people walk all over you. Most of all I would tell her to believe in herself and keep trying, find a way. I realizes because I was dropped as a kid, it spilled over into my adulthood. It took me some time to get it together, and there was a lot of time wasted.  I am grate for where I am now. I have blossomed in to a beautiful, confident, awesome women.

Sometimes it is hard to look back at the life you have left behind, but I believe it will help us to be grateful of where we are now and how far we have come. Life can hand  a crappy deal, but I say you are a Diamond in the rough, and everything you’ve gone through was just you cleaning and cutting to become a more beautiful you. One with more clarity and value.  I encourage you to take sometime today and try this exercise, and I pray that it encourages your heart. God bless!

Speak Life

It is said that Death and life are in the power of the tongue! Often times we speak without thinking. We allow negativity out of our mouths in to the atmosphere. We allow our situations and frustrations to determine how we speak over our lives and the lives of others. We speak death because of harsh test and trials that come, and also because of how something or someone makes us feel. It does not matter how great we spoke over our selves the days before. If we speak negatively in the mist of our struggles, it still attracts negativity.  We often hear that misery loves company, but so does negativity.   It is the law of attraction that what we send out, we get back.  When we are negative, usually the people around us are negative. It’s the law of attraction.  We have to remember that when we think, speak, and act negative, negative things happen. Let’s say goodbye to negativity! The negative things, and people in our lives. Let’s get rid of the parts of us that are negative, and began to speak life (positive).  

Today I say speak life. Speak positive.  Don’t allow yourself or the people in your circle to be negative. Because it is contagious.  We want great things to come our way, and we don’t want to slow them down by having a force field of negativity (Death) around us. Sometimes a little positivity can brighten a gloomy day, and give you hope for a better one. Speaking life can give you the fuel you need, to make the things in your life get better. Speaking life is the beginning of a change in your perception, and when you continue to speak life your perception will be changed. I’m not gonna say only focus on the positive because that’s not reality, but I will say learn from the negative things that happened. Bring and speak life in to any dead situation. Just as the dry bones were a dead situation and God breathed life into them, let him be your example and you do the same.   Speak life no matter how difficult it gets, speak life even when negativity is all you see. Speak life because it’s a slap in the face to enemy, and speak life because you need to live. When we learn to do this, life is just a bit easier to bear.  When we learn to do this we will notice our vision has become much more clear. Speak life  because with out it we are dead. So speak life because we only have one life to live! 

Disappointment

             Disappointment occurs at many different times in our lives. Sometimes you can see and can sense it will happen. And sometimes you can feel it coming from a mile away, and still trying to give it the benefit of the doubt. Other times it catches you completely by surprise and off guard. However or whenever it comes, it is always a blow!! A Blow to you heart, ego, confidence, and relationships.  It can sometimes change how you view the world completely. We all will experience it at some point in our lives. It can have such a hold on you and follow you throughout life. It can change how you plan your goals. It can change how you handle relationships.  I believe, depending on the situation, there is something to learn from disappointment.  How did it happen? Where did it come from? Is it some thinXLLS​​g that can be fixed? When we have hope and an expectation for something, your heart is in it, you have confidence in it. You began to form a level of trust. So, for it to fail or be sabotaged can be life changing.

                       

                The people you love can disappoint you. Sometimes they don’t mean it but it happens.  When the people you love drop you or brush you off, it will leave an impression that will often times set the tone for future relationships. You will always, in the back of your mind question if the next person will do you the same way. So you build a wall that you stand on and wait for an offense to happen. Be careful in doing that because you can accidentally take a false alarm and run with it and ruin a great thing.  I’m not saying people are perfect, however you will never have another healthy relationship until you deal with the fungus of disappointment that has grown around your heart.  Opportunities also can be disappointing, you build up expectation and excitement for it.  If it doesn’t turn the way you planned it or it turns out horrible, you will not want to plan future events or always fear it will be just as bad. However your disappointment happens, there is healing that needs to take place. Confidence to be restored.  If we can push pass disappointment, pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off. It will make us stronger.  We will build up muscles of endurance. We will learn how not to stay in a rut and keep walking.  Keep pursuing our dreams and finding new people and giving them a chance. Not letting the fear of disappointment hinder our future any longer!!! Thank you !

                                                                                          Sincerely,

                                                                                            Goodbye Disappointment