Discovery Monday

As many of you have read in my previous post, this has been a very interesting time in my life. the you, you are afraid to show people. People will never know how smart and wonderful you are until you come  out of that stuffy shell.  Discover what makes you happy, excited, and fulfilled!! You won't regret it I'm sure!!!!     Today is Discovery Monday!! 

I have been truly learning the unique weirdo that I am. I have learned how strong , resilient, and awesome I am. Yes, it has taken me some time, but every frustration and every hurt, and every night I've cried have been worth it!! God has shown me how gifted he has made me. I am grateful to God that he has shown me his love for me!! Today, I encourage you to Discover YOU!! Discover

What's Your Anthem!!!

Have you ever had a song that is  apart of your routine in the morning that just gets you hype and motivated. The one everyone tired of hearing you play, and when it comes on every one looks at you. LOL!  Do you have something that you quote everyday or declarations you make?  These are the things that help make life just a tiny bit easier to get things done that you may not really want to do.   Its your anthem . An anthem is

 1. A rousing or uplifting song identified with a particular group, body, or cause.

 2:  A song or hymn of praise or gladness

 What is your Anthem? Something that encourages you. Something that gives you that extra boost! Something that you declare, something sing or speak. I  encourage you to find you anthem or make one.  In the times you feel low , play your song, say you declaration or scripture. I pray that it uplifts you! I am going to leave you with my anthem song and I pray it blesses you!! Have a great rest of the day!! 

It's Your Life!!

We all have those people in our lives who think, that we should be in a certain place at this time in our lives you telling them you’re not interested.  Constantly having to tell family and friends you took another route in life, made another career choice, or became an entrepreneur. We all have those who think they know what’s best for you, BUT I say “It’s your life,” and you have to live it for you. At the end of the day, those people dishing the suggestions usually will never take suggestions. These people are usually the ones that are not feeling fulfill or satisfied with where they are, at this time in their own lives. So they try to push on you what their desires are. Controlling people try to control other because they feel like they don’t have control over their own situation, so they try to find anything and anyone gullible, immature, or with a lack confidence they can easily maneuver. Please, Get away from those or put them in their place. You are a confident individual and not a carbon copy of someone else. You are an original honey and act like it. Those individuals who think we should follow the life schedule they made for us in their heads, and somehow their schedule is supposed to top the one we made for ourselves. If not, those parents who are continually hounding you to get married and have some grandchildren for them.  People who are always telling you what you should do, in spite of

It’s your life and it is up to you and God to make the decisions.  You have to make the choices in your life, because at the end of the day, you will be stuck with whatever the result are.  Don’t let anyone decide your life for you, because if it’s a bad choice, you will have to live with whatever comes next. It’s your life, make the best of it.  Be free and be yourself. Find what makes you happy and fulfilled. Let people go down whatever road they are trying to send you. Don’t care what others have to say about it either.    Please remember no matter what you people will always have something to say about it, SO WHAT!! Let people talk, as long as they don’t put their hands on you or yours, let them say what they want.  While their miserable and you have joy!!! Let them talk while you laugh all the way to the bank. Let them talk while you’re getting degrees or starting your business. Let them talk because that’s all they have. You only get one life and it disappears just as fast as vapor. Make the best of it, and make sure it’s the one you chose or God chose for you. A life without regrets, and wishing you had done something. Make the best of it and always remember, live it to its fullest. It’s Your Life!!!

                                                                                           -AB  

Even when it Hurts

There are times in our lives when we have to keep going no matter the obstacle we face. There are times when we have to continue to love those who have wronged us because it is the right things to do. Not saying that we have to continue to accept their treatment to us , but rather still love them afar and forgive them. There are times when our bodies get weak and our minds get weary, however, we don’t have the liberty and option to  take a break. There are times when we already feel like we are bending over backward, breaking our backs and the world is still asking for more.  When these times arise we have to continue pressing on even when it hurts, even when we feeling we might fail or fall. When it's painful to our bodies, and when it's painful to our hearts , we have to continue on because if we don’t who will?  I know it may seem as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and everyone is counting on you. But God must trust you enough  to get things done and trust you to do it to the best of your ability, that’s why he gives you a heavier load.

There  will be times when we feel like we have no more to give, and feel like we want to be left alone. We will be hurt, misused and taken advantage of. However,  we have to keep going , keep giving what has been placed inside of us. Do what we are equipped to do , it is a part of our making. It is who we are made to be. We can't deprive the world of the gifts we have to offer. It is said  a man's gifts will make room for him but it never has never said how much room it would be. It doesn’t say what the conditions will be when that room is made available.  I encourage you that whatever is hurting you  that you keep pressing  past the pain , it is only one pit stop to your destination. Keep working on your dreams and goals, keep working in the ministry God assigned for you to do. It will all make sense one day.  One day it will be all worth it.   You are victorious, even when it hurts!! God Bless!

                                                                                      -AB

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

There are many of us trying to accomplish our dreams and goals. We are trying hard to make them a reality, and anyone who is really putting forth that effort knows it can and will be challenging and discouraging at times. There are times when you accomplish pieces of your goals and/or dream and then it seems like someone turns up the lever too hard. The closer you get the harder it becomes, but we have to keep pushing, reminding ourselves every day that we can do it. I say reminding ourselves because we will not always have the support we need. I have been in school for a while, and I’ve been trying to start a business.  At times, it can be discouraging sometimes it feeling like accomplishing success is miles away.  There are times where I have to get by myself and get down to business. It’s funny because when you really buckle down and handle your stuff, you will lose people. People will think your acting funny, or snobby.  However, as time goes you will see who is really for you, who’s toxic to your dreams and success. There are people that act like there for you, but as soon as you accomplish something the monster they are will really come out. 

Protect your vision, dreams and goals. Learn when to share and who to share with because there are undercover haters that will try to throw acid and smile in your face.  We will not always have someone wishing us the best, sitting in our corner encouraging us to keep going. Most of the time it is lonely and you have to encourage and motivate yourself.   I want to say to all those who is fighting to make something of yourself, trying to start a business, and finish school, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  Keep trying , keep researching, keep finding different avenues and ideas. Don’t anyone tell you what you can’t do! Believe in yourself!! Trust the process!!  Trust God!! You Got this!! Keep going!!  YOU CAN DO THIS!!

Know Your Worth!

Knowing your worth is one of the most important revelations in life. However, we live in a society where this is not instilled in us. It is very important to understand and have confidence in knowing we have worth. We must be able stand our ground and not waver when we our worth and integrity is challenged. Not just in intimate relationships, but work, business, and friendships. Knowing our worth determines so many thing such as, what you are willing to accept and put up with from others, and what you can and are willing to bring to the table. Also it is how you present yourself or what you are bringing to that table. There are many things that can hinder you from knowing your worth here are a few. 1.  Low Self Esteem, is the number one reason individuals don’t know and understand their worth. If you have low self-esteem you are walking that line of not believing your worth anything. 2. Staying in any relationship where people constantly tare, and put you down. 3. Staying in relationships where you are constantly being lied to, cheated on, manipulated or abused. If business, lack of promotion (if it’s definitely room to grow and you are doing an amazing job) or someone tries to insultingly negotiate your services or products like they aren’t worth anything. 4. Allowing family and/or friends to talk and treat you any way they please, and allowing them to continue humiliating, and degrading you. 5. When you allow people too constantly to put you, your character, and ideas down, it shows the lack of understanding of your worth.

        When someone knows their worth, they are not willing to accept any treatment. They have confidence and need no validation from others! When someone knows their worth they have integrity and carry themselves in a certain manner. You can’t just bring B.S and think they are going to just accept it. They will not let someone continue to step on them or cut them down. They know what they can bring to the table and will not be manipulated or talked out of what they know is theirs. When someone knows their, they will fall back and stop people in their tracks, when they are not being treated according how they know or believe they should. They carry themselves respectfully, and have no problem giving respect.  Knowing your worth is very important indeed. I am in that lesion right now, and I am learning to fall back and not just accept everything. It can be a long process, learning your worth. However, it one of the best lesson that you will carry throughout life. It is a lesson that everyone needs to learn.  The truth is if you don’t know it, you will never live up to your true potential, and you never get all that life has for you.  Thank you for reading!    

What’s your passion?

There are so many things we do, and task we take on in our lives. Things that make us excited and intrigued, however we can sometimes still

feel so unfulfilled. I’ve been asked so many times what my passion is. And most of the time I can’t give a complete answer. Most of the time I give what I think is my passion but on the inside I am unsure. It often bothered me when people asked me that question. It grips my heart and brain making me search the deep parts of my mind trying to really figure it out. Recently, I was talking to someone dear to me and I realized that it’s not just me feeling unfulfilled. I think this needs to be our search. What is our passion? 
What makes us happy to do, and what would we do even if we didn’t get paid? 

This has been my search for this year. Finding what my passion is and finding the things that make me feel like I’ve accomplished something. I believe some of us have found things that we are passionate about, but when it was in our face we overlooked it. Sometimes we need to go back and revisit previous things that made our hearts burn with love, and excitement leaving us wanting more.  I encourage you hold on to those healthy things that make you feel that way.  Those are the things that you become passionate about.  It doesn’t matter if you have to do those things alone.  

When you find your passion hold on to it. Because people spend a life time trying to find theirs. Good Luck and blessing to those who have not!! Seize the day and pay attention, you might just find your passion.  Here are some questions /things to help you on your journey:

1.       What are you good at?
2.       What excites you?
3.       What do you read about?
4.       What have you secretly dreamed of?
5.       Experiment, try.
6.       Banish your fears.
7.       Find the time.

Finding My Voice

When I was younger I was annoyingly out spoken. I was always pointing out others lies and called them on their crap. I was nowhere near staying in a kids place nor a teenager's place. However I kept it real always, even when came to me. At the age of 16 I decided to go to church and I believe this is where I lost my voice. I'm not church bashing nor am I saying it’s their fault.  But, when you are broken and thinking something is wrong with you, thinking that all this stuff couldn't possible happen to you before the age of 16, and it must be something you’re doing. You began to try to bury the person you were created to be, thinking god couldn't possible love me nor want me as is. You began to suppress and try to mold in to something else, and someone else, you don’t want to be who you are. You really don’t know who you are. At that time, I lost my voice trying to find a different tone.  Spiraling in and out of depression, constantly being broken down by someone who thought they were helping, but in reality adding to my push to suppress me and become something else. 

          

                 Years pass and I had become someone who let people walk all over them and did whatever someone told me to do. In the back of my mind, wanting to tell them to go somewhere and get out of my face. I submitted, because I did want to be that girl again.  That girl who had an attitude and rude, hard and bold. I was still broken, not realizing, that it was exactly who I am. The Real me.  Now an adult and the light came on one day and I realize that everything I tried to get away from and suppress was exactly who I am. Out spoken and brutally honest. Loving and nurturing, it sounds like a contradiction but it’s who I am. I began to love my self and understand he made me that way for a reason. We began to dig her up, clean her up, and put back together any broken pieces shattered by others and myself. I am finding my voice, day by day, post by post.  Now I speak how I feel in wisdom, and I try my best to think before I speak. I also realize I don’t have to say everything and I know when to shut my mouth. Things that only come with maturity. I encourage you to find your voice if you lost or suppressed it. Not for any one else but for yourself. It will free a piece of your identity, and empower you in many ways.  Don’t let anyone shut you up, don’t let anyone tell you that what you have to say is not important.  Don’t let anyone, not even yourself. Make you feel like you can’t express yourself, someone will listen.   Your voice matters, Speak out!    

                                                                                

                                                                                   Thank You

What would you tell your younger self?

This morning as I was watching a clip of the real, and they did a segment asking what you would tell your younger self. They presented pictures of themselves now with their younger self. As I watched it I began to cry because there is so much I would tell her. First, I would hug her and love on her because she really needed it.  I would tell her that everything will be ok and she will be ok. As a child, I endured a lot, a lot of loneliness and low self-esteem because esteem wasn’t being built up.  There was nothing preparing me for the future. My mother and father were consumed in themselves because what life dealt them. Which left me and my brothers to fin for ourselves emotionally, partially physically.

She needed someone to pour into her and nurture her. She needed someone to guide her and correct her. She needed someone to invest in her, most of all someone say, I Love you. I would love to tell myself at a younger age it’s not their fault (my parents). They are hurting and they love you no matter what. I would tell her that she is bright and smart. She can do anything. 

I would let her know how gifted and creative she is, and how God has a plan for her. I would tell her don’t hold grudges toward the people that have hurt her and pray for them. I would say don’t let people walk all over you. Most of all I would tell her to believe in herself and keep trying, find a way. I realizes because I was dropped as a kid, it spilled over into my adulthood. It took me some time to get it together, and there was a lot of time wasted.  I am grate for where I am now. I have blossomed in to a beautiful, confident, awesome women.

Sometimes it is hard to look back at the life you have left behind, but I believe it will help us to be grateful of where we are now and how far we have come. Life can hand  a crappy deal, but I say you are a Diamond in the rough, and everything you’ve gone through was just you cleaning and cutting to become a more beautiful you. One with more clarity and value.  I encourage you to take sometime today and try this exercise, and I pray that it encourages your heart. God bless!

Keep Moving

 Life can truly be ruff. It will make you to say forget it and jump off a bridge somewhere.  Sometimes it will make you feel depressed, angry, and bitter. It will sometimes suck all of the life out you, and you will feel worthless. It will be times that you lose hope, and the belief that your dreams and goals can be accomplished. The valleys of life will cause your very faith to be tested. It will take every part of your being to make it through.  The earthquakes of life will shake you until you breakdown, feeling as if you have lost everything. It will make you feel as if you are barely holding on to your sanity, but KEEP MOVING!!

Keep moving when your boss is hounding you, and you’re doing your best.

Keep moving when you kids aren’t listening, and you’re about to knock them in to next year.

Keep moving when you feel like giving up, and giving in to the person you use to be.

Keep moving , when everyone  has walked away, when you feel like God isn’t listening, and when you feel like the sun just might not come out tomorrow,

You have to keep moving when you feel like ending it all, and when you feel like you’re not going to make it.

Keep moving when it feels like that life continuously throws bricks at you.

Keep Moving!!

    Why? Because your strong, because you have purpose and a destiny. The world needs you. Because without you life wouldn’t be the same.  Because without you, we will be missing out on the greatest person ever made. Because nobody can be you better than you can!   God made you special. You’re a limited edition honey!   Why?  Because there is something in you that needs to be shared with others to help them.  Because you want to live! Because although it feels like an everlasting night, the Sun has no choice but to come out in the morning.   Keep Moving, you can’t stop. If you stop you’ll never reach what’s right before you, what's waiting for you! Keeping moving, because what you’re reaching for is inches away. Keep moving even when your feet get heavy. Keep moving, even when detours comes up.  I encourage you to Keep moving, you will make it, you will succeed . Your goals will be accomplished, your dreams will become reality. Please keep moving, no matter what or who tells you, you can’t. Please keep moving, no matter what tries to block you, or distract you. Keep Moving it will get better!!!
                                       
                                                         -AB

Mother's Day

        We celebrate mothers all over, because each day the world is heavy up on her shoulders. She is the super women of the year, and even when her needs no one seems to hear. She cooks, she cleans, man this woman is amazing, she will turn into a bear if you mess with her baby. She is sweet and soft like cotton candy, even when everyone is in a panic. I mean sometime she runs like a machine, tackling mountains of dishes, mountains of clothes, mountains of chores which are all a mothers woes.  Today we celebrate you mom hopefully you get a break. We know it will be all over once a kids knocks over a plate.   This is your day and we celebrate you, even though sometimes you look and feel like the woman in the shoe. Happy Mother’s day

                                    -ab

In the Face of Opposition and Adversity

               

In this thing called life we run in to so many challenges on our journey to purpose and destiny. Often times when you are trying to do anything you run in to Opposition, a resistance or dissent, expressed in action or argument, and  Adversity which are difficulties, misfortune, trouble, misery, and affliction. I have often found myself shrinking back in the face of Opposition, and there are so many things that I vision my self-doing but don’t because of Adversity.  Nothing in life will be accomplished without facing these two.  It like a woman who is pregnant and soon to give birth. She has becomes tired because of the weight of the baby (purpose), it’s hard to breath, and it’s hard to walk because sometimes her feet are swollen. She goes to through all that adversity (trouble and misery) she is ready for this baby to come out. However, although she has carried this baby through being tired, not wanting to get up and walk, not wanting to do anything anymore. She still has to go through labor and even that is a process that will break her down. She has to go through the pain of contractions that stretch her,and after all that she has had to endure , it’s still not over she still has to PUSH!!!!! Sometimes when we resist, God has to cut it out (C-section), and then and only then purpose is birthed out.

              I encourage you to keep going no matter who’s there or not, who agrees or not. There may a lot of people in your delivery room, but it’s still you and the doctor or Midwife (God) doing the work of birthing your purpose, and dreams. Keep walking, keep pushing in the face of Opposition and Adversity.  Opposition and Adversity will always be those bullies that you have to stand up to. I am learning to keep walking no matter how many times I want to run away and hide my face in a pillow and cry.  I’m learning to keep loving and forgiving not matter how people hurt me, or when I find out they are not who I thought they were.  Life is too short to spend more than a sec. on things that are not helping you birth out destiny.  Pursue your dreams, and remember to keep trying it doesn’t matter how many times you don’t succeed or how many doors shut in your face.  Keep going!  You’re going to make it!! You’re going to do it!! Remember everything is a process, and everything happens in its time. Be encouraged, be encouraged.

                                                                    -     AB

Love Your Awesome

Love Your Awesome

April 30, 2016A.B

Today we will discuss loving your awesome, no its not an error. LOL!  Loving your awesome is loving who you are. In today's society we are shown how to look , and how to act. There is nothing encouraging individuality. It seems as if everyone is emulating someone. From the time we are children , the media has set the standard of beauty , career choices,  and how we view the world. We  are not  encouraged to be ourselves.  We are not encourage to have our own ideas. I believe, we our dying to meet ourselves.  I bet we will be surprised of how amazing we truly are.  Who are we to deprive the world of all our AWESOME :-)    Today , I want you to ask yourself, "Who am I?"  Finding yourself is an amazing , but sometimes a difficult journey. It takes you acknowledging the things you like about yourself and don't. However,  its something life changing to find your voice and your truth. I am currently on this journey, and I am loving it. I never knew how unique I am.  I believe I have something to offer the world.  We all have  something to offer the world. Our voice has its own unique  vibration,and we effect change around us. Once you find yourself, be yourself. No one can be you, SO, Love yourself, Love your Awesome and be unapologetically  you!