Rejection is Temporary

                     This morning I had a dream that reminded me of all the rejection I've experienced

and sometimes still at times struggle with. It's interesting to have untapped greatness in you, but have to sit and wait because it not your time yet. Having to wait because God still has to work things in and out of you. Having to wait because your still shaky in your walk with him. When this happens it's easy to become frustrating  when hearing, seeing  a glimpse of what God wants to do or has for you to do  , and having to wait for the manifestation of it. We have to be careful not to move out of Gods timing. We forget that every vision , instruction, and  prophecy  is for a set time which may not be in the near future. We also have to be careful not to link up with people who is as equally if not more frustrated than we are. Two people with the same frustration can make one feel right about the wrong things and cause an even bigger problem.  See rejection is disheartening and can cause one to loose momentum , and if repeated, can often  cause one to shut down and not try again. Rejection can cause one to be hesitant to put forth a future effort and hold back when they definitely should speak up.

           Rejection is not always a complete no, sometimes it is not your time. Youre not baked all the way , and you need to stay in the oven a little longer. Your ideas , gifts and talents are great, and are needed in the  world of  today. When we are rejected we have to ask ourselves, although what I bring is good, is it the right moment. Am I giving it to the right place, and am I giving it to the right people? We have to remember everything is not about us and the way we feel. Just as we have felt that hard rejection, we have to be mindful of other people and try not make them feel the way we have felt many times.

            I pray that those of you that struggle with the spirit of rejection, that God would heal you and help you to stay strong when those times arise. Remember that even the prophets were not welcomed in their own countries.  Your time will come. Write the vision. Write down your ideas they may be for a  time that is not here yet. God bless you, remember you are valuble , everyone of Gods jewels is. God Bless you!! 

The Spirit of Control

Listen !!

The Spirit of control is real!! And if some in your life is

operating in that spirit, it is best to get away. It will cause you to be under constant attack and in warfare . You will constantly be arguing or rebuking it . It is a Jezebel spirit!  I am constantly at odds with this spirit and am still in the process of Learning how to overcome it and defeat it. If someone in your life is doing things for you just so that you will do what they want, that is both manipulation and control. Kindly decline their next offer and if they ask why then have a conversation. If these twins Manipulation and control are in your relationships is not a real relationship of any kind, that I'm sure of. Why, because the moment you do not do what the person wants it’s a problem. We have all experienced this spirit, but  I will tell you this, Don’t let anyone control you! God should be the only one in control. Here are a few ways to know….

The following are some signs you are under the unhealthy control of another person:

1. The controlling person you are in close relationship with doesn't allow you to prove your point when in disagreement.

2. The controlling person manipulates you with temper tantrums and threats.

3. The controlling person constantly tries to make victims feel guilty or bad about the way they treat them when the opposite is really true.

4. The controlling person is always expecting more from you and is never satisfied.

5. The controlling person is always questioning your motives.

6. The controlling person is constantly putting you down.

7. The controlling person is used to always having their way.

8. The controlling person walks away from their responsibilities as a way to manipulate others.

9. The controlling person finds ways to impose their will in every situation.

10. The controlling person threatens to end the relationship.

12. The controlling person withholds physical affection.

 I’m going to add one;

13. They get angry and/ or Violent when you don’t do what they want!

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"12 Signs Someone Is Manipulating and Controlling You." Charisma News. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Aug. 2016. <http://www.charismanews.com/opinion/the-pulse/56927-12-signs-someone-is-manipulating-and-controlling-you>.

Stressful People

Get away from stressful people!!!!  Have you ever had someone in your life that when

you're around them they stress you out? Like their personality and the way they do thinks makes you feel like you’re a mile closer to having a nervous breakdown? I have!! The stressful person in my life is my mother. She is one of those really draining people that when you leave her presence, you need a long winters nap stressful.  Stressful to the point you want to limit the number of times you’re around her in a year. This week marks the countdown to my birthday and I am feeling annoyed and stressed out. I booked a trip and she invited herself ugh!!!! We are going to my aunt’s house Saturday because my cousins Birthday is the day before, and she is already creating drama and making me not want to go. At this point, I really want to cry. She does not care about anyone’s feelings or opinion but her own. She never stops talking and, overtaking or low-key trying to bully people and tells me to shut up on a regular. It’s just a drag. She is the type of person that does things to people and when they cut her off or feel some type of way about how she treated them, all of a sudden she got amnesia and she claims she did nothing...  If you have this type of person in your life run!!!!

I encourage you to break free from these kinds of people if you can. Don’t freely allow people to stress you out, and make you feel a heavy load of anxiety. Run!!!  Protect your space and your atmosphere!  Protect your spirit. If you have no choice but to be around stressful people. Pray, put on some soothing music. Try to meditate. As the very last result talk to them. I put it as the last result because sometimes, being stressful is just who they are, they don’t mean to be and sometimes all they need is a talking to. If they choose to continue and not even try to stop. Then you know that is not the person you should have in your space.  I must say do not take it as an opportunity to take out your frustration, nor tear down someone’s character because they make you feel a certain way. Stressful people are both toxic and draining. Be careful who you allow in your space.

Think Big!!!

I Confess!! I'm Guilty!!!! I Began to think out side the box but my thoughts, goals and vision never

left the room. I had the right ideas in a mini note book, the right ingredients but the wrong measurements.  I'm guilty!  Of letting poverty minded conditioning cover and hide, the acres of possibility. Having acres of opportunity but instead I shrink them down to a small lot size. Why didn't I remember before that although it's my vision my eyes are not Gods eyes.  I was thinking to small. Smaller than the potential in me, smaller than how I was made. I was made to do big things,  intentionally. You see we have great visions, but we allow it to stop there. Never gaining the "Know How," the information we needed to make that vision a reality. Today , I realized that there are so many other things that can come from one idea, one vision, and one business. And that we are so one track minded , we miss opportunities to jump on other tracks in our reach .  We allow low self-esteem to paralyze us, and keep us from making that leap. But Today, I declare that is over. I Declare that every Idea, Dream, Goals, and vision will come to reality. I declare that fear is eliminated and destroyed. I declare that my eyes are open to see and acknowledge every open door, opportunity, and avenue I need to take. In Jesus Name

I encourage you today to expand your way of thinking.  If you own a business think about how you can bring more money to your business . If it's a  physical store think about expanding to an online store, and vice versa. Whatever vision or/and plan you have, take it out the box and don't in sit in the room on a self,  work it until you have reached the top. Gain all the information you need. Many businesses fail in the first two years because lack of management skills and  because the lack the "know how".  Remember Think Big, there is more to you than what you have been putting forth. It is more in you than what you are doing now.  If something doesn't work, go back to the drawing board it is not a failure until you quit. Don't sit on those gifts, ideas, vision, and businesses you have inside of you. Don't let anything or anyone (including yourself)  get in your way. You got this!! You can do this!! You were made for it! Think Big!! The Sky is not the Limit!

Right Place Right Time!!

We have always heard the older generation say 
"They were in the wrong place, at the wrong

time," when  tragedy strikes. And it seems that it is happening a lot more frequent these days.  However, there  is a such thing as being in the Right Place at the Right time. I experienced it this morning. 
I hope this blesses you!

       I am a college student and I am also an entrepreneur . When you are an entrepreneur it cost a lot of your own  money and time. It takes a lot of resources and things you probably don't have.  It is up to you are the sole owner to provide these things. 70% small businesses fail in the  first 10 years of business, most in the very beginning stages.  One of the most important things when starting a business is the "Know How," and  that information can be money for a new business owner. Now back to college , I have taken a business class and because I was sick a lot and my blood pressure was out of control, I had to drop that class. I had to drop that class, so I am taking it again now. It is the 4th day of class and the information that I have receive has change my life today!! I had been struggling and my teacher just gave me the solution. was a month in to the other class and the information I got was standard and it wasn't even close to what I receive today. Had I remain healthy and  in the other class, I wouldn't be here getting what I truly need.

         See we don't understand when things happen to us or why we haven't been able to propel in the time we think we should. But,  if you actively trust and wait on  him, he will put you in the place you should be, to hear what you need to hear, at the time you need you should be, so that you can walk in to your  destiny. Sometimes we think God has forgotten about the dreams we are desperately trying to accomplish, so we sometimes loose faith. BUT!!!!!!  Wait upon the Lord, all things are working for your good. I tell you he will put you in the right place at the right time!!  Mind is Blown this morning!! Don't give up on God ! Trust the process!! Trust his time!! It's not to late!   

                                                                   Have a Great Day!!
                                                                               -AB

Boss Up!!

 There comes a time in your life when you should not be so willing to live and be any kind of way. There comes a time when you desire better, and then you  become willing to pursue and work at it.  As I rose early this morning to get to my 7am class, it dawned up me that I'm not willing to stay in  the comfortable place that I was in for so long. I acknowledge that I have things on the inside that have to come out. I am actively doing my part and waiting on God to do his. I am moving in the right direction, Finally.  

I have found out  that a lot of people are afraid of success, whether they admit it or not. Or whether they know it or not.  Most are scared to see their true potential come to light. Many have great business ideas, but don't know where to start, or how to bring out what they envision on the inside.  Some lack confidence,  their confidence have been destroyed and they don't believe they can do it, or even have what it takes to do it  but the Devil is a lair.   Some lack nourishment, I say nourishment because some come from poverty minded homes. Where mom or dad didn't finish high school, or didn't go to college. Lived off of government assistance their whole life, and never encourage the children to do something with their lives. Never ever  made sure the kids did their homework or what ever they needed to do to succeed in life. Left them to themselves or the streets. They were not given the tools needed to do something better in life. I've been there and I am no longer that young person that allows my past, of what mommy didn't teach me  and daddy wasn't there. To hold me hostage or bound ,keeping me from reaching success. 

I  admit that it is easy to sit and do nothing while life passes you by. Each person has a different level of responsibility and hunger.  Everyone does not  have that go getter mentality. Not everyone has that drive that says , No, you are going to make something of your self, you will have ambitions and goals, and you will accomplish them. 
Now,  if all that describes you, then that is not an  excuse any longer. Get up out of that place of being comfortable with; no drive, no money, self- pity, having excuses, and wanting someone else to do it for you or give you everything. You can do all things, and you can speak it into existence.  Step out on faith that you can do it, you'll never know until you try.  Become that person you desire to be , the only one in your way is you! You can do this!You  can break free too. There is so much in you that can help somebody. You can do what ever you put your mind too.  Rise up do some research, take a class, Get a Job, make a job (Hello!!) and  keep trying to do something to make your life  better then what you were given. Boss up! and watch God work!!

Even when it Hurts

There are times in our lives when we have to keep going no matter the obstacle we face. There are times when we have to continue to love those who have wronged us because it is the right things to do. Not saying that we have to continue to accept their treatment to us , but rather still love them afar and forgive them. There are times when our bodies get weak and our minds get weary, however, we don’t have the liberty and option to  take a break. There are times when we already feel like we are bending over backward, breaking our backs and the world is still asking for more.  When these times arise we have to continue pressing on even when it hurts, even when we feeling we might fail or fall. When it's painful to our bodies, and when it's painful to our hearts , we have to continue on because if we don’t who will?  I know it may seem as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and everyone is counting on you. But God must trust you enough  to get things done and trust you to do it to the best of your ability, that’s why he gives you a heavier load.

There  will be times when we feel like we have no more to give, and feel like we want to be left alone. We will be hurt, misused and taken advantage of. However,  we have to keep going , keep giving what has been placed inside of us. Do what we are equipped to do , it is a part of our making. It is who we are made to be. We can't deprive the world of the gifts we have to offer. It is said  a man's gifts will make room for him but it never has never said how much room it would be. It doesn’t say what the conditions will be when that room is made available.  I encourage you that whatever is hurting you  that you keep pressing  past the pain , it is only one pit stop to your destination. Keep working on your dreams and goals, keep working in the ministry God assigned for you to do. It will all make sense one day.  One day it will be all worth it.   You are victorious, even when it hurts!! God Bless!

                                                                                      -AB

Trust Your Gut

Have you ever had a situation when you felt a strong urgency in the pit of your stomach,  to do or not do  a thing.  We call that gut instinct for women it is called our women's intuition. Have you ever ignored that feeling and regretted it later?  We say to ourselves, "Darn I knew it," or "something told me."  It happens all the time. We must learn to trust our gut or intuition.  Sunday,  when I was trying to figure out what to post on this blog for a Sunday Morning , what came to my heart was Faith! I begin to write about it and I found myself thinking maybe this is a little too deep. Maybe I should talk about something else so I did (check it out!!LOL!!). I went to church and my pastor was preaching and teaching on, just guess, FAITH!!! I could have just fallen out my seat and slap myself. I said to the Lord, O, Lord that was you!!! My bad.lol He was trying to teach me something. Obedience and how to follow and obey him. Shows I was somewhere else in my mind. When things are heavy on you , it is best you pay attention. When the pit of your stomach, gut, or intuition says or warns you of something, it is best that you don't ignore it. I wonder how many deaths and accidents could have been avoided if the person trusted their gut.

Sometimes the Lord will use our gut feelings and intuition as a way of communication.There will be times that the Lord is talking to us, and trying to get his message across  so that we understand and get it straight from him. We have to learn how to follow his voice if we are ever going to walk in our God-given assignments on this earth. No assignments are given without instructions or training, and you have to be able to read and hear to receive them. Our gut  is our warning siren, it helps us with directions, and helps us with the people we come in contact with. It is our discernment.  Using our guts, and intuitions is an advantage. Please to don't confuse it with  fear. Fear can arrest you, and stop you from doing that which you know you should. Intuition can help, and guide you in the decisions you make.   Learn how to trust your gut/ intuition it will not steer you wrong. Learn how to trust God he will never lead you wrong. He gives us these things to help. Trust your gut.

Freedom

Freedom is the quality or state of being free: as the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action, liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another:  independence. –Webster

    Recently, I spoke with someone about freedom, and the cost of freedom. It’s amazing to me that freedom actually is not free at all, it requires a lot of sacrifices and will cost (not money) you a lot of things and people that may be difficult for you to give up.  I desire to be completely free, and I understand it is a lonely journey but is one I am determined to finish. I want complete freedom so God can use me as he wishes. I know the cost and sacrifice it calls for and I am ready to pay and go through it. Come along with me, Let’s Talk freedom…

In the natural, in order for a country to become free most of the time, they have to go to war. The country has to fight against an oppressor to gain their freedom.  Let’s take the United States for example. The British came to North America for several reasons, and when they came they had to face the unknown circumstance such as; Harsh weather, learning how to find food and water.  They were in a serious wilderness experience, and those who were not helped by the Native Americans mostly starved to death. Once successfully operating ,the U.S was under the control of Great Britain, and Great Britain almost sucks the U.S dry, with high taxes, exports, and taking away the ability for them to govern themselves. The U.S decided they didn’t want to be under the control of Great Britten any longer and started with many boycotts and petitions. However, G.B was not letting the U.S go that easily. They deployed ships and troops to keep America under its control and so begins the war. The war took places in many battles some that were won and some loss, overall winning the war and their freedom. It cost lives and lands. Many sacrificed family members and their chance for a future.

Now for the Spiritual, spiritual freedom sometimes mirrors the natural. We are in a constant battle fighting with the enemy and our own flesh for complete freedom. Jesus died on the cross for us to be free. Him dying gave us the opportunity and power to be free completely.  And because most don’t understand the power and freedom we have in Jesus, many more likely to fall victim in times of Warfare. The enemy is always waging war and bringing small battles trying to control us. He creates things that wiggle into our minds and hearts putting us in chains. He’ll send the spirit of confusion, a spirit of low self-esteem. He’ll set up people to slowly put poison in our lives. He will throw so many things at us that sometimes we get distracted, then captured and put in jail. However, oppression does not only comes from the enemy but sometimes from our own flesh.  Our flesh is another thing, we have to fight against constantly. The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride of life. We live in an age where we rather please our self than God and that is deadly. Sometimes bondage can also come from our past experiences, and/or recent hurts even mistakes that we are ashamed of, keeping us from obtaining true freedom.

 We have to remember that once we decide we don’t want to be under the control of our flesh or the Devil, the fight for our freedom becomes visible.  When you decide to be free, be ready. Ready for things and people trying to stop you, but be encouraged because it is obtainable. There is always a fight going on, but this fight will be one biggest fights of your life. For the fight for freedom is made up many different battles in a big War but each is necessary. Whether we are bound in our mind, heart or from circumstances. We will have to fast and pray. We will have to stay in Gods face and petition for freedom.  Sometimes we will have to boycott hanging out, and other things to win freedom.   God gave us his spirit, so it is ours for the asking. We will have to fight but remember who controls the battle, do your part, and watch the King grant you your freedom.

                                                                             -AB

The close of a Chapter!

We go through so many seasons in our lives, every one bringing its own share of ups and downs.  Its own set of surprises and challenges.  Seasons that bring both loss and gain. However, a season is only a part of something bigger. A Chapter!  Let me explain, when reading a book you will find that years, months, and days can go by for any character. The character can experience many changes, and will often mature as the time goes. Seasons can go by and you can still be in the same chapter. A chapter is not limited to certain amount of time or issues, and no matter what you go through in a previous chapter of your life, every chapter differs from another. It’s really up to the author to determine when the chapter is over. Chapters end and begin with a shift! For example, When Jesus was on the cross and he said “It is Finished,” it closed the chapter of being under the dispensation of the law. It also opened up a new chapter (dispensation) called grace! 

 I am approaching the end of a chapter in my life and it is bringing so many mixed feelings. I am happy and feel like crying at the same time. It’s amazing when you spend a chunk of your life in a certain place and when the end of it comes, you reflect and appreciate how far you’ve come. Especially when you didn’t think you would make it in the first place. This chapter in my life has truly shown me what it means to be strong and grateful, and blessed. It has shown me the essence of growth. It has not been an inch of easy, but I survived and endured every stumbling block placed in front of me to trip and fail. I’ve grown, matured, and am ready to move on to the next chapter in my life.  It’s interesting because it is at the end of the chapter when the story gets the juiciest. It leaves you with anticipation and desire to keep reading.  In life it is just the same, it leaves you excited and/or anxious for what’s next. I encourage you to appreciate the seasons and events that makes up your chapter, and when the chapter is over move on with grace and purpose.  Your story has already been written, but as it unfolds to you, live it to its fullest.   

                                                                         -AB

What’s your passion?

There are so many things we do, and task we take on in our lives. Things that make us excited and intrigued, however we can sometimes still

feel so unfulfilled. I’ve been asked so many times what my passion is. And most of the time I can’t give a complete answer. Most of the time I give what I think is my passion but on the inside I am unsure. It often bothered me when people asked me that question. It grips my heart and brain making me search the deep parts of my mind trying to really figure it out. Recently, I was talking to someone dear to me and I realized that it’s not just me feeling unfulfilled. I think this needs to be our search. What is our passion? 
What makes us happy to do, and what would we do even if we didn’t get paid? 

This has been my search for this year. Finding what my passion is and finding the things that make me feel like I’ve accomplished something. I believe some of us have found things that we are passionate about, but when it was in our face we overlooked it. Sometimes we need to go back and revisit previous things that made our hearts burn with love, and excitement leaving us wanting more.  I encourage you hold on to those healthy things that make you feel that way.  Those are the things that you become passionate about.  It doesn’t matter if you have to do those things alone.  

When you find your passion hold on to it. Because people spend a life time trying to find theirs. Good Luck and blessing to those who have not!! Seize the day and pay attention, you might just find your passion.  Here are some questions /things to help you on your journey:

1.       What are you good at?
2.       What excites you?
3.       What do you read about?
4.       What have you secretly dreamed of?
5.       Experiment, try.
6.       Banish your fears.
7.       Find the time.

Life is but a Vapor

I often worry about the time we have left on this earth. In the times we live in today, it seems as if time has sped up.   It looks as if the end of the world is tomorrow, and today is almost over.  I wonder if I will ever accomplish my dreams and goals. Will I ever see marriage and have children; I wonder how much time my family members has left. It plagues my mind often. Although I am making progress toward the things I hope for, I still ask myself will I finish.  I am learning to appreciate each day, and to make the best of it. I am learning to choose wisely who and what I allow to take up the time I have. We can’t get time back so we have to make sure it’s taken up with the things that make us happy or the things we actually want to do. Why?  Because life will pass us by and we’ll look up and time will run out.  I know we as human beings think we have all the time we need, but the truth is tomorrow is not promised. 

Life is but a vapor, and vapor disappears in seconds. I encourage you to make the best of your day. Don’t dwell on petty mishaps. Don’t dwell on things you can do nothing about. Seize the day and take control of your happiness. Don’t spend time being a people pleaser or a yes man. Don’t spend your time doubting yourself or God.  I am learning to be unapologetically me, and I think everyone should.  Be the best you, you can be! Follow your dreams and purpose. The truth is we don’t know when it’s all over so you should live everyday as your last. I am fighting to get to this place, living like every day is my last. I am making the adjustments I need, so that I don’t waste time that I can’t get back. Finding the things I that love and doing that. Find what fulfills you. Get excited about life, command happiness, and protect your joy! Thank you for reading!! Bless you all love bugs!!